An Evaluation Designed to Measure Your Response
to Internal and External Stress.

Do you have realistic expectations of yourself and others? Are you a perfectionist? Are you a victim, play the blame game? Do you feel guilty when you have to say "no"? See how your answers to these questions contribute to your overall stress level.

It has been said that: "Attitude is everything!" When contemplating why we are stressed and anxious, most of us look outside. We look at other people, institutions, work places, and family for the reasons for our distress. The following evaluation will give you an opportunity for insight into the role your basic thinking plays in your level of anxiety.

As you read each statement consider it not on an intellectual level, but by your emotional and physical response when you make that statement. For example: Number 9, "I must not fail!" Intellectually you may know that we all "fail" and this is a part of life. But when you make the judgment that you failed, how does your stomach feel? Do you go over this "failure" again and again? For weeks, months, years? How does your head feel? What is your tension level? Reflecting in this manner, circle a one, two, three or four. Respond quickly, do not analyze! Your first response is usually the most accurate.

Step 1: Go through the statements at this time; 
             click the button that best describes your response.

SCORING

This self-evaluation inventory may help you see that it is your attitude, inner beliefs, your picture of how life "should be," that is causing most of your anxiety. It is impossible for things to always "be fair." You may have known this intellectually, but this evaluation measures your response and therefore, stress level, when you mentally stomp your feet and say, 
"It's not fair!! I am a good person. I follow all the rules. I don't deserve this!"

0-15 You are a very realistic person.  You realize how ridiculous all of these statements are.

16-25 Your attitude is responsible for a mild amount of anxiety in your life.   With some minor adjustments you can greatly improve your anxiety level.

26-35 You experience a moderate to high amount of anxiety as a direct result of your thoughts and expectations. You will be less anxious and more content if you learn how to change the way you think.

36-60 You are probably anxious and dissatisfied with yourself and others much of the time. It is your attitude.  You can be taught to see life experiences in a different way.

Most of the statements on this inventory are ridiculous, perfectionist, anxiety producing statements. If you are trying to live with these statements and beliefs, you are asking for anxiety and stress.  You can be taught to let go of this type of thinking.

~If you circled a 3 or 4 on statements 1,4,5,7 and 9, 
you are a perfectionist.

Think about the anxiety it produces to always want perfection when in reality there is no "perfect." We constantly live in the "never arrive" state. When you think that in order for something to be done correctly you'd better do it yourself, two things happen.  You end up doing all the work and those you were unable to delegate to- feel disrespected, disempowered, distrusted and inadequate.

~If you circled a 3 or 4 on statements 3,6,8,10,11,12, and 14, 
you need to work on being more assertive.  You can learn how to stand up for yourself without standing on someone else, to love and respect yourself. ATTACKING ANXIETY will teach you how to be heard  without shouting.  Aren't you tired of being a people pleaser and the loss of self? You will come to understand that you truly are a good and worthy person.

~If you circled a 3 or 4 on statements 2,5,7,9, and 10, 
you have unrealistic expectations. This makes you very hard to live with, but the person that you are hardest on is - YOU. We are not suggesting that you have low expectations, rather realistic and reasonable ones. You can learn how to re-examine your "shoulds" and expectations.

~If you circled a 3 or 4 on statements 2,8,10,12,13, and 15, 
you feel victimized and probably spend a lot of time looking outside yourself for the reasons. You can learn how to: take control of your life, stop being a victim, stop blaming, and think in healthy, productive ways. You can choose to be happy and peaceful. You are capable of learning how to take charge of your life. 

It is impossible to "be in control" at all times.  Things are not always fair, and people only take advantage of you when you let them. You can learn to be comfortable with these statements.

If you scored high on this inventory, you really need to change the way you think in order to minimize and eliminate some of your distress and anxiety. The ATTACKING ANXIETY program will teach you how to think and behave in a realistic, calm, healthy way.  We are not born with coping skills and life management techniques-we must learn them. If stress and anxiety are disrupting your life, now is the time to pick up the skills that you have not learned yet. You can find inner peace!
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